Baby or no baby?

This post is something that's been on my mind a lot lately and it isn't something that is entirely farm related.  It has to do with me and where I'm at in my life.  My hubby and I are approaching our two year wedding anniversary and my time frame for not having children seems to have come to an end.  I get asked about having kids more than I can even keep track of.  I don't necessarily mind getting asked, I just think it's interesting that people are asking. 

My hubby and I started dating when I was eighteen and he was 21.  I was 22 by the time we decided to get married.  This means we dated for three and a half years before he proposed and were together for four and a half years by the time we said our I do's.  Since we were together for awhile we routinely got the question of when are you getting married after we had been together for a couple years.  Of course we were waiting until we were both ready and could both be in the same place.  We were both young when we first started dating and I still think that getting married at 22 was a young age.  But I was ready and so was my hubby.  Plus he was 26 when we tied the knot.  He likes to tell people that he had to wait for me to finish school so he could marry me, which is sweet and partly true.

In my world I seem to go from one waiting room to the next in the eyes of the people around me.  First it was why aren't you married yet and now it's why don't you have kids yet.  Everyone that asks these questions means well and some of them are just genuinely curious.  For me kids are no where on my radar.  My uterus is not ready for that kind of commitment and neither am I.  It's not that I don't plan on having kids, but I do know that it will be a few years before I'm ready for that chapter of my life.  At least assuming my birth control keeps doing it's job and God doesn't have any surprises for me. 

Some people want to have children young so they can be young when their kids grow up and others want to wait until they are older and more established.  For me I've always thought of having kids in my late twenties and into my thirties and since I am currently 24 this means I've got a few more years before my plan kicks in.  The hubby and I are in a fantastic place in our lives and we love having this time to ourselves.  We can go where we want when we want and we have very few responsibilities outside of our jobs.  Our dog, Daisy is our biggest concern and she's pretty easy to take care of. 

On another level the farm is not ready for me to have a baby.  Right now there is no one to take my place or help out if I did decide to have a child.  When I decide I am ready to have a child we will figure it out as a family since the farm is family run.  But for now life is good with it being just the hubby and myself.  The point that I want to make is that everyone has their own time table for things to happen.  And things happen when they're supposed to.  For now my cow babies are the only babies I will be taking care of on a daily basis and I think it is a beautiful thing that I am able to have that choice.